“Are you married?”That question seems to be popping up everywhere! Even when the question is asked the responses are even more wild.
A man and a woman are talking even flirting at the office. The woman asks the question ” Are you married?” The man replies in sorrow as his head turns down to the floor and in a deep sorrow voice he mutters the word “yes”. The woman continues to flirt and talk with him like the words that came out of his mouth were not even acknowledged. This of course leads to more talking, more flirting, and eventually an affair.
So the question “Are you married?” Does it really matter to certain people even when the married person responds “yes” won’t they just go after the married person anyway? Won’t they test that boundary? Where is the commitment for that married person? Is ” I’m just not happy or in love with my spouse anymore” a justified reason to become uncommitted and unfaithful?
My heart begins to grieve when I hear of married couples not defending their marriage. Husbands know their job is to protect, that includes marriage. Protect your marriage. Wives know it is their job to protect their children, Protect your marriage too. Invaders are everywhere! If they weren’t, you wouldn’t hear about affairs over and over again. All affairs do, is break up, tear apart, destroy, kill,and steal. I have never found anything good that came out of an affair.
Temptation is there. It will always be there. Master it. The best way is to RUN!!!!! When Joseph was being tempted by sexual desires with a married woman he RAN! A woman walks in the office dresses immodesty, with a low cut top, or mini skirt, high heels and she flirts with a married man what should he do? RUN the other way. Stay Away! A woman or man flirts with a married person, The Married person should Run away!
Always tell your spouse. Without telling them, you a putting yourself in a situation of lying and sneaking. Do yourself the favor tell your spouse. Even if you are having trouble with the temptation. Tell your spouse. Even if you had an affair, tell your spouse. Not telling them is hurting them. What they don’t know, will hurt them cause they will find out Only it wont be by you, which will hurt them worse.Telling them is honesty and that is the best policy.
When you are at the moment of falling for the trap of an affair,because you chose not to run from the temptation. At first it seems exciting, the sneaking, the fantasy your mind plays out of it. It’s new, new can be exciting. In your mind you may think, there is justification when there is “no happiness in the home. “or “If only my spouse would dress, or act this way. I wouldn’t go out seeking it elsewhere. I am justified.” Then the fights come in, between the spouses. ( Usually caused by the one having the affair)Now the fight got so ” out of control” so the spouse leaves in justifying the affair.
Now the other person who has a role in this affair feels superior. “I can meet this person’s needs while their spouse couldn’t. I am too, justified.”
The reality is no one is justified.The people involved in this affair are wrong.There is no justifying a mere sinful thought into sinful actions without their being consequences. and let me tell you, the consequences are not just the people involved it’s the spouse and if their are children involved they too are effected. So yes this “drama fantasy” effects everyone. This ” drama fantasy” will blow up in your face. To excuse it, as “your spouse is to blame,” is really only being a coward by not taking responsibilities for their ( the person having the affair) part in the marriage. To say that one spouse “wasn’t happy anymore”or “fell out of love,”is again a cowardly response to bring some justification to a thought and sinful action. If one spouse ” fell out of love” I would question this. Love is a choice not a feeling, you don’t fall in or out of it. Do you even know what Love is? There is help offered for any other excuse one spouse would bring up to justify there reasoning of having an affair.
To the one who is playing a role in this affair to feel superior. I would say you may think you too, are justified but you aren’t. Why wouldn’t you leave a married person alone? You think you are satisfying this person? If this person could not even tell their spouse the truth and what was lacking in the relationship what honestly makes you think this person will tell you? If the person isn’t committed to their marriage because of people like you, what makes you think their wont be another intruder? Did you think you were the only intruder? An intruder in marriage is NOT justified. If anything the intruder knew the person was married and they still kept going after the married person. That is what makes them intruders. Honestly my heart goes out to the intruders, they often have a very poor image of themselves. Otherwise they would go after single people and leave married people alone.
But to the married people, like in the beginning of this story this man looked to the floor and replied to the woman in a deep and sorrow voice “yes.” Really? He should have said ” Yes I am married!” He should have been showing off his ring, allowing her to know I wont cheat on my spouse. He should have been protecting his marriage.
If there are problems in your marriage, know you are not alone! But it doesn’t give you the excuse to cheat. Marriage wasn’t to make us happy, but holy. Marriage is one man, one woman. That’s the way it has been since the beginning of time. Marriage is to serve the other. Not as a dominate thing, but as a humble servant on both parties. One is to be the bride and the other the bridegroom. No where was marriage created by man! As you can see in the statuses what man has created when God isn’t in the center of it. Divorce rates are sky high, and affairs are common.